Lead By Example

As parents, we spend enormous amounts of time worrying about how our children are going to turn out. Will they be intelligent, caring, generous, outgoing, or friendly? Will they be financially responsible, philanthropic, interested in the world? Will they go to college? Will they be good parents? The truth is, we can spend all this time worrying, or we can act in a way that we hope our children will emulate. If we hope to raise non-smokers, then as adults we need to lead by example and never smoke. If we hope for children that grow to be financially responsible, then as adults we should live within our means. And if we want our children to be healthy and fit, then we better eat right, workout, limit use of alcohol, and avoid drugs. Although this sounds simple, it can be exceedingly difficult.

Our world today is set up to move quickly. Have a question? Look online and have an answer in 30 seconds. Need to reach someone? Expect a text back in even less time. In this fast-paced world, we also need ways to eat, and workout quickly and efficiently. There are so many times when we are running around to practices, games, work, and appointments that the drive-thru is the only option to feed the family. When we are rushed by all these commitments, we are forced into bad nutrition and tend to neglect our own personal needs in terms of workouts. Kids see this. They learn that as an adult, you don't always have time to care for yourself while you are taking care of others. This is the message we don't want kids to see. So no matter what, scheduling time to keep ourselves healthy is a must for all parents! Even if it means we have to take a different commitment off the books. We have to prioritize our own health, not just so that we have years of functioning ahead of us, but so that we can set the right example for our children. Learning to work in our own personal fitness at the same time as our children's fitness is a great option. How many times have you taken a child to practice and sat around waiting for an hour to pass? Try walking around the soccer field while you watch your child. Or how about running around the track during track practice? Most coaches will not be upset at all if you join right in during your child's conditioning phase of their practice. It is a great way to show your child you are there to support them and teach them that you believe in your own fitness as well.

We have all had that drive-thru moment when you don't want to feed the kids a high fat, high calorie, no substance meal, but where do you get a meal for 4 in 5 minutes flat? Leaving some options in the trunk is a great way to avoid this quick stop (and probably save yourself some money in the process). A small cooler with some bottled water, healthy nutrition bars, some nuts and dried fruit might be a simple way to provide the snack everyone needs without busting out the daily caloric intake. If a bigger meal is what's needed, try the grocery store instead of a fast food restaurant. Pop in to the deli and grab a few chicken breasts, some apples from the produce aisle and a couple cartons of milk. Kids will still be pleased and their fuel levels will be restored. To top it off, you will feel better about your own intake and have energy to last for several more hours because you have consumed a healthy meal.

As parents, we can't underestimate our influence in helping our children make great choices for their future. But, with that being said, we have to remember that not always do children decide to follow our influence. Sometimes, we set all the right examples and we have a child that still decides to pick up smoking, or a teen that eats terribly. The important thing to remember is that we have laid the foundation and eventually that child will remember what they have seen and learned and likely make their way back. But even if they don't, we know we have done the best we can and we can have no regrets about the lessons we taught!

In Good Health,


Jennifer